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Chat up our Hosts for tips or simply to ask, which direction the bar is in! After being shown to your table, the ladies will remain seated for the duration of the event. The gents move from lovely lady to lovely lady every six to seven minutes. Simply jot down your potential 'Date-Mates' at the bottom of your Scorecard and we'll take care of the rest. For those who garner matches, you will be notified via e-mail within 24 hours of the event ending of your 'Date-Mate' results. Alas, the event is over but the night has just begun.

Feel free to stay as long as you would like to mingle further.

All we need are the 'Date-Mate' Scorecards to determine if love is in the air for you. Offering uncompromising value with unparalleled service. Lovely venues and our lovely Hosts to assist you with anything or anyone. This activity is past. Things to do in Boston soon. Is this event still open? The Center for Sexual Pleasure and Health http: The Alternatives to Violence Project Mass https: We are pleased to announce a speed dating event coming up on Friday, November 2nd. Last time rocked; high on that energy, your PSD organizers decided to actually try and run more than one in a calendar year!

As with last time, this is a fundraiser to support and promote various anti-racist activities in the Boston area and beyond. As usual, we expect people to dress up if they so desire.

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Heck, it is close to Halloween so go nuts if you want to! Costumes are super welcome, but be sure to allow for visibility, mobility, and seating ability. Think about whether you want to be creepy or not, in other words. More masquerade ball, less zombie apocalypse — or just come as your fabulous selves. We were helped by our food vendor, Chilacates in JP , who gave us a discount to support our fundraising.

And also the Armory in Somerville , who gave us a discount on the venue to again support our fundraising efforts. And a tremendous final thank-you to our greeters and volunteers who really made the event happen by making signs, checking in people, making the info sheets, obtaining supplies, cleaning up, entering data, and so much more. We also wanted to encourage you to continue to track what our sponsored organizations are up to, and to continue to support them with money or time as best you can.

See our Nonprofit sheets on the four organizations, which are. Black and Pink http: As you donate, you can tag your money for WPCR. We are now going through the feedback you all had for the event. We will post updates, plans, and reflections on our blog. Be sure to stay connected with us, as we are now planning an event for next October mailing list link at right.

The following capture many of our reflections in designing our code of conduct and associated policy. It was a hard process, involving many conversations and struggles. And we know it is not perfect. We do not know if we have found the best answer. Our code of conduct and accompanying policy is a living, working document, and we invite feedback on it or this piece in the comments section below. You can also email us directly. There is no single polyamorous community, but rather a network of overlapping communities that share some idea about how love and relationship can work.

The goal of Poly Speed Dating is to allow these communities to connect, to expand our worlds as we also find others to have relationships with. This can be a scary thing to experience. Dating is scary, for many.

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Meeting people is scary, for many. And, in fact, sometimes these fears are justified. In any community there will be people that have caused harm, and will probably cause harm again as they struggle with their own damage and histories. In principle, those that cause such harm could be banished from a community, if we could identify them. But the idea of banishment, once considered one of the worst punishments a community could manifest, does not mesh well with the idea that all have the ability to heal. The idea of banishment feels very local: The experience of banishment seems like something that could exacerbate, reinforcing and expanding the bitterness and alienation that creates monsters.

We do not see it as healthy for a community to lean towards restriction and exclusion in an attempt to guarantee safety.

Banishment is a very serious act. But safety is also important.

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Worrying about harm to someone who is causing or has caused harm, while letting those who may have been harmed bear the cost is no move towards social justice. The question is then what we, as organizers, should do. Our balance is to attempt to structure our events in such a manner that while people might not be entirely comfortable, they will be safe.

We work to create a space where people can play with meeting people in a context where potential for harm is greatly limited.

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At our events, everyone has the right to be left alone by anyone they find undesirable in any way. If people cannot conduct themselves in a manner that aligns with these values, we will ask them to leave and not return. If anyone is violating these principles, we hope people will approach us, the staff, so we can take action on the spot. We hope these actions, and this intolerance of abusive behavior, will make our events safe enough. But we do not feel we are able to make such decisions based on reports of history unrelated to our events.

We simply do not know everyone in the many communities that attend, we do not know how to separate situational behavior—a bad break up or catastrophic mismatch of expectations—from the damage of predatory behavior.

We do not know what the various lines separating acceptable and unacceptable are for different groups of people. Even if we tried, the system would be imperfect: We let strangers sign up for Poly Speed Dating. This reflection came in part from inquiries about missing stairs. But our events cross multiple communities, are a microcosm of meeting and dating people in the broad world. Banishment, in particular, does not deal with it openly.

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Overall, we decided to take strong action to prevent harm in our space, but also find ourselves forced to say that you should date at your own risk. Ours is a venue to fairly safely meet strangers, but only so much can be learned upon an initial meeting. We had to close registration to make sure we could handle the crowds! It will be our biggest Boston area event ever, so wish us luck.

If you missed the deadline, please join our mailing list link at right to hear about future events. We will not sell your email and we will only email you rarely way less than 1 email per month, on average. Due to overwhelming response people registered , for the first time ever we are going to close registration before the event and not allow walk-ins at all. If you have been meaning to sign up, do so now.